Article: Sharon - Suggestions for Beginning New Relationships

Sharon - SSTattler

After a stroke, many relationships don’t survive. That doesn’t mean that stroke survivor don’t want a relationship.  Judy and Mike are excellent example of a couple who met and married after stroke. Not  only that, they are good friends with Judy’s first husband.

Judy was just over 30 at the time of her stroke.  After months in rehab, she came home to find out that her husband was more interested in someone else than her.  So despite the difficulty she had  speaking, she asked him to leave.  Coping with children and house on her own was not easy, but she did. A couple of years later, she decided she wanted a new relationship. She decided the best way  to meet people was to go to singles events.  She met a lot of different men, many were not her type and many were not interested in her.  Judy said that some thought that because she was disabled that they would “rule the house.”  Despite meeting a lot of toads and not many princes, she persisted.  Then she met Mike. Mike had a family of his own and he too was caring for his family.  They had many interests in common. They dated and then married.  Bringing two teenage families together was not easy for either Mike or Judy, but together they managed. The family thrived.  Mike supported Judy to get her driver’s licence.  Judy supported Mike in the raising of his children.  Together they have weathered many storms including other health challenges like hip and knee surgery, cancer, and heart attack.

Judy met Mike at singles events. Are there other ways to meet potential marriage partners?  If you have a good (or not so good) story about meeting a new partner or a new friend, can you tell us about it?  Your story may help other people to start a new relationship or find a new friend.